You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.Whether or not we make it a priority, we all go through life trying to find “The One.” For some, the search is harder: going on date after date without making a real connection, or suffering through a string of unsuccessful relationships.
It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, and humiliating at worst. People suffer through this in the hope that the object of their affection will eventually buckle and reveal his or her true feelings. They keep making up excuses to hang out, hedging all their bets and waiting for God to give them a sign.
That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.
If the object of your affection becomes aware of your intentions, he or she might not reciprocate, and that's going to hurt. Instead of asking someone out on a date and being bold in their intentions, they turn to the soggy milquetoast alternative to dating: "hanging out."Here's how it works: you like someone but you're afraid to let him or her know. It has the trappings of a date—a cozy ambiance, comforting beverages, atmospheric music—while allowing everyone involved to disavow the actual occurrence of a date.
There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.
Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.